Anytime you get upset over what someone did to you, you are by that action of yours saying that you are hurt by that person’s behaviour towards you. Whether it is shouting, walking out on the person, being angry, they are all valid ways to express emotions over the way you feel. We are all emotional beings and giving in to our emotions especially when we are hurt does not make one a coward or less mature. Due to certain societal expectations, we school people to hide their feelings, not to show certain emotions, not to cry, not to appear weak and a whole lot of other things we foist on others. (You can see the video version of this here- https://youtu.be/LNJ0-GyPutc)
Live and let live. Allow people to react naturally to events. If you feel more comfortable holding in your emotions when angry or sad, by all means, feel free to do so, just don’t expect others to do the same. Don’t use yourself as a standard to judge other people who feel the need to react naturally to stimuli from their environment. Infact, it has been proven that allowing oneself grieve over the death of someone actually helps people to recover faster. For other emotions like anger, despite all that has been said concerning it, I do believe that there is nothing wrong with being angry or even reacting because you are angry. I think the watchword is to ensure you don’t go overboard with any of these emotions.
Like I stated earlier, you are human and have every right to show appropriate emotions when situations around you call for that. Don’t allow other people’s societal expectations daunt or haunt you. You have every right to your emotions, but don’t let them get the better of you.
Have a wonderful week!